I write this letter to you sitting in my apartment, with a glass of wine and some good music. I write to you today as a 25-year-old woman, and I have some news from the future that you probably aren’t going to believe: all those motivational posters are true. They do sound a bit corny but in the larger scheme of things, it’s all true.
The one bad thing about this letter is that I can’t use it to reach back and slap you upside the head to knock some sense into you. Patience is something you’ve always lacked. I hope you’ve got it straight by now; but if you haven’t, then keep trying. Your dreams scare you now and they will continue to do so in the future too. It’s the kind of fear that will stop you cold in your steps and fill your head with doubt. No matter how terrifying it gets, keep at it. Wonderful moments await you at the other side.
You’re probably worried about how you look and that you’re not attractive enough. Guess what, this self-doubt is that pesky tenant that stays in your head, refuses to pay rent and adds to your miseries. You’ve got to find a way to either throw it out, or mute it out. You are an independent woman who wakes up every morning and kicks ass. You are living life on your own terms and that makes you a badass. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Be it a good day or a bad day, you get through it all by yourself keeping work in the spotlight. You’re a woman who knows what she wants and is not afraid to ask for it. This is what makes you attractive — not your dress size or your crooked smile. Those are parts of what makes you, you. Embrace them.
Don’t let other people rent space in your head for free. That’s valuable real estate. Give it to only those who plan on staying for the long run. Some you think will be there, until they’re too busy to care. People have always drained you and they will continue to do so until you pull the plug. If they don’t have an encouraging or positive word to say, don’t waste your time on them. Being mean will apparently be considered cool. It’s not — being a good person is a whole lot cooler. Their actions and words will speak for them – make sure to keep your eyes and ears active.
Learn when to make things happen vs. when to let things happen. When you’re feeling strongly about one or the other, move confidently in that one direction. Down the road, if you don’t like that path after you’ve given it a red hot go, then simply choose again. If you are torn on whether to let something happen or make it happen then sit down at the fork in the road and pause. Hint: We have a tendency to make things happen (force it) at times. Ease up, sister.
Lastly, chill out! It’ll all work out, just like it always has. Remember the times when all your actions were governed by your passion. If you lose that fire within you, find it, build it and let it burn – this time with twice the intensity.
I love you and hope you learn to love yourself at an earlier stage than I did.